When Your Child Resists Support
As parents, we want nothing more than to see our children thrive, which is why it can be so disheartening when they resist the very support we know they need. Whether it’s therapy, counselling, a new program, or even just opening up about their feelings, resistance is a natural part of the process. The good news is, with patience, understanding, and the right strategies, you can help your child feel more comfortable accepting support.
Why Do Children Resist Support?
Resistance to support often stems from underlying emotions or fears. Here are some common reasons:
Fear of the Unknown: New environments or people can feel intimidating.
Loss of Control: Children may feel like decisions are being made for them without their input.
Shame or Embarrassment: Some kids worry about being labeled as “different” or “broken.”
Mistrust: Building trust takes time, especially if your child is hesitant to open up.
Understanding the “why” behind their resistance is the first step toward finding a solution.
How to Approach Resistance with Compassion
Validate Their Feelings: Acknowledge their emotions without judgment. Phrases like, “I understand this feels scary,” can go a long way in building trust.
Involve Them in the Process: Empower your child by including them in decisions. Let them help choose their therapist or pick activities they feel comfortable with.
Start Small: Ease into the process by introducing support in a less formal way, such as reading a relevant book together or trying an online activity.
Be Patient: Change takes time. Reassure them that they can go at their own pace and that it’s okay to feel unsure.
Model Openness: Share your own experiences of seeking support or learning something new to normalize the process.
When Professional Support is Needed
Sometimes, resistance can stem from deeper issues that require professional guidance. A counselor, psychologist, or occupational therapist (OT) trained in working with children can help bridge the gap, making the process less overwhelming. At Cooroy Therapy, we specialise in counselling and psychology services, building trust and creating safe, engaging spaces where children can feel heard and supported.
Programs Designed to Help Kids Engage
At Cooroy Therapy, we offer a variety of services that can help your family:
Play Therapy: A fun, non-threatening way for kids to express their emotions.
Mindful Moves: Programs that combine movement, mindfulness, and emotional growth.
Holiday and Parent Workshops: Equipping parents with tools to navigate resistance and foster connection.
Final Thoughts
Resistance to support is a natural reaction, but it doesn’t mean your child doesn’t need or want help. By approaching the situation with empathy, patience, and an open mind, you can guide them toward embracing the tools and resources that will help them flourish.
If your child is struggling to engage with support, we’re here to help. Reach out to Cooroy Therapy for guidance and programs tailored to meet your child’s unique needs through our counselling and psychology services.
📞 Call Us: 0422 506 824 or complete our intake form today.
